The Sacred Texts Beyond Our Grasp — Today we call it “Tantra” — and what we mean by that can vary, sometimes widely. (See also: “The Heart of Tantra” and “Origins of Tantra”) But there was a time when “Tantra” basically meant: “book.” “A Tantra” or “The Tantras” referenced a book or the collection of books that…

I am a miracle. From two entangled molecules the full information of my manufacture unfolded, and now I am trillions of copies of that, trillions of cells in highly balanced, orchestrated, structured engagement. The creation of a being is a miracle. Unknowable and uncountable chemical and electrical processes are unfolding…

And how to cultivate the experience of freedom. — The question was — what does freedom feel like, in yourself and in relationship? When I think of the feeling of most expansive freedom, I imagine taking my first steps into the air of a new city, traveling alone, with no agenda, itinerary, or duty. That first touch of sunlight…

It begins with comparison. Comparison seems like a simple enough thing. A tiger is different from a rabbit. A blueberry is tasty; a pokeberry is poison. In fact, scientists call our brain a comparison device. Neurologically, it is a pattern recognition machine. We match sensory inputs to patterns wired by…

An Exploration in Tantric Relationship We had taken to using the word ‘monogamish’ because nothing else seemed to fit. Our church friends wouldn’t call us monogamous, because our sexuality could sometimes include others. (Not that we told our church friends!) …

The Ancient Lineage of the Sacred Intimate The Temple A warrior entered the Temple, and a leatherworker emerged. Dusty from the road, sweating from exertion in the noonday sun, bruised, fresh with scars, and haunted by the things he had seen, and by the things he had done, the warrior stepped into the cool air of the Temple. A…

Extensive training, extraordinary skill, intense discipline, good health, good rest, good diet. These are the pre-conditions that make that rare event possible for the best athletes: being “in the zone.” In the 1970’s, Mihály Csíkszentmihályi developed a psychological description of what he called “flow state” describing an experience of being…

Perhaps you are thinking about getting a tantric massage (or a yoni massage, or a lingam massage, or a sacred spot massage, or a tantric healing session, or a sexological bodywork session, or even just a sensual massage). Maybe you already have your session planned. The difference between a good…

I was in a cab, headed home late at night. Coming down the road towards us was an ambulance, lights flashing. As the cab pulled over, I had a flash-vision of the ambulance smacking into cross traffic. I wonder why that doesn’t happen more, I thought. And then it happened. …